This is a comprehensive article to discuss what is considered culturally LAME in 2018 and are to be addressed socially as such.
LAME: unconvincingly feeble.
"it was a lame statement and there was no excusing the behavior"
Synonyms: feeble, weak, thin, flimsy, poor, sorry; More
unconvincing, implausible, unlikely
"a lame social media post”
Also, note that I’m smart. lol. This list ain’t your bubble gum list… you might have to think, if not question your own thinking. Enjoy!
Letting people take you out of your element. Let’s start this list off about how you can make yourself a walking lame. Don’t let people get to you, people are crazy. lol. The devil is suppose to try the good saints of 2018. This year we are rising above every single attack, and if we have to respond we will make it look sexy. We will do it how it’s suppose to be done. We will read chapter and chapters of the real story in well fitting suits and dresses, and when we speak it will be worthy of a press conference. Anything that requires less… it’s not worthy of any of your time and energy.
Black Leaders who discriminate against or devalue other members of the Black Community by blaming them for the communities degradation. I hadn’t fully understood how divisive Dr. Umar Johnson was. I personally see his value in the black liberation movement. My valuing him is not anchored in his views on women and the LGBTQ community, but for his ability to gather the masses behind thought and history. I’m a fan of human engineering and I marvel at anyone who can move a mass number of people from Tarana Burke to Soldier Boy. Though they are valuable, those who use discriminatory rhetoric are not fit to stand with those who unite the masses when the people are finally one.
Ceasing working together because of “Personal” issues with others. If you don’t have an unbiased mediator in your organization or contacts to one that you are not utilizing, your group and possibly you are toxic, and should stay out of movement spaces. We have no more time for awkward energy and the spreading of “revenge tales” in movement spaces. Get a mediator, get your feelings out in private, and let’s get back to working together, because fragmented movements don’t bring forth change in the rate in which we need.
Calling everything “HARMFUL” or “PROBLEMATIC”. Please stop labeling everything “Harmful” and/or “Problematic” when you really just got your feelings hurt and/or refuse to look at things outside of your own experiences. There are behaviors that are clear cut dangerous: rape, stalking, bullying, verbal abuse, but we’ve blurred the line of dangerous to people’s thoughts and not their actions. It’s not that thought’s can’t lead to harmful or dangerous actions, but we assume that people who say things that we disagree with are set out to destroy us and we make them out to be problematic, when really you all just have different experiences and can’t agree. STOP THAT. Stop vilifying people you disagree with.
Spending Energy On Things and People You Don’t Agree With. In 2017 The entire nation was dubbing Atlanta the city too busy to hate, and as I sat in the middle of the city all I can see were shots fired at everyone for every little thing. I had to duck my head down, not because I was afraid to get hit, but because I was so ashamed. In a time where black intellect and access to education has surpassed that of any of our ancestors, we choose to argue like fools with one another and we even take the time out to try to assassinate people’s characters. These altercations usually sprout from relationships gone bad, reckless social media commenting, and/or actually cases of mistreatment from organizations and/or people. Instead of spending energy trying to tear something or someone down, in 2018 we expect to you to build something better, genuinely help, or STFU.
Electing people seeking office who are not practitioners of new and more responsive economies. There should not be another politician elected because of any non-action defining trait: black, white, woman, man, handsome, etc. All of our future leaders must have experience creating new and more responsive economies that solve issues of poverty, homelessness, and education. We don’t need anymore pretty faces and promises. We need practitioners who can fashion the non-responsive city assets to those that aid and impact more people.
Name calling. I know, I know. We were suppose to leave this in Elementary school. Since we agree on that, it’s safe to say that anyone calling people out of their names is childish. This goes for historical racial epithet, classic hip-hop terms that degrade women, and the new wave of terms that degrade men. Need example? Okay: Nigga, Hoes, Thots, Bitches, Fuck Boys, Fuck Girls, Etc.
Not being apart of a defined community that holds its members accountable. Our accountability methods must tighten up. We have seen an unprecedented amount of people being called out for inappropriate sexual behavior. This behavior runs across the gender spectrum, but men are usually the figurehead of the conversation. Nonetheless, brothers hold your brothers accountable for their actions, and sisters do the same for your sisters. Hopefully organizations that are integrated can create a process to hold each member accountable for their actions through a process that includes restorative justice.
The Lack of Process In Dealing with our people. We live in an age that cries for restorative justice, but we fail to show a model within our own culture and community, which leaves me to believe that we may be only looking for a handout from those who oppress us, instead of demanding that which we provide for ourselves. We demand restorative justice in courts, but don’t apply it in the only court we own… the court of public opinion. When we learn how to be corrective and gentle with our people perhaps the harmony needed to overcome our collective struggles will shine through. I’m hopeful that we will create this process soon, and I hope to be a part of it.
Conversations about rape culture that don’t include the experience of young black boys and men as victims to both men and women. This is probably one of the realest conversation that needs to be happening. 2017 saw countless headlines of men being accused, and apologizing for their sexual behavior. The entire conversation about rape culture is centered around men as perpetrators, which doesn’t lead to encouraging male victims to speak out. This is not, by any means the fault of women. Men and boys should be bold enough to discuss their experience, and my prayer is that they are received with just as much concern as anyone. We cannot solve rape culture if the stories of our young black boys are not accounted for, so please encourage young men to speak up so that they may too be advocates to end rape culture, and not perpetuate it.
Did I miss anything? Comment below if there are other “Lame” things to add to our “Woke” list!
P.S. My use of the words: lame, and crazy are not to insinuate ableism. Please forgive me if my uses offend. It is not my intent.