This is a comprehensive article to discuss what is considered culturally LAME in 2018 and are to be addressed socially as such.
LAME: unconvincingly feeble.
"it was a lame statement and there was no excusing the behavior"
Synonyms: feeble, weak, thin, flimsy, poor, sorry; More
unconvincing, implausible, unlikely
"a lame social media post”
Also, note that I’m smart. lol. This list ain’t your bubble gum list… you might have to think, if not question your own thinking. Enjoy!
Letting people take you out of your element. Let’s start this list off about how you can make yourself a walking lame. Don’t let people get to you, people are crazy. lol. The devil is suppose to try the good saints of 2018. This year we are rising above every single attack, and if we have to respond we will make it look sexy. We will do it how it’s suppose to be done. We will read chapter and chapters of the real story in well fitting suits and dresses, and when we speak it will be worthy of a press conference. Anything that requires less… it’s not worthy of any of your time and energy.
Black Leaders who discriminate against or devalue other members of the Black Community by blaming them for the communities degradation. I hadn’t fully understood how divisive Dr. Umar Johnson was. I personally see his value in the black liberation movement. My valuing him is not anchored in his views on women and the LGBTQ community, but for his ability to gather the masses behind thought and history. I’m a fan of human engineering and I marvel at anyone who can move a mass number of people from Tarana Burke to Soldier Boy. Though they are valuable, those who use discriminatory rhetoric are not fit to stand with those who unite the masses when the people are finally one.
Ceasing working together because of “Personal” issues with others. If you don’t have an unbiased mediator in your organization or contacts to one that you are not utilizing, your group and possibly you are toxic, and should stay out of movement spaces. We have no more time for awkward energy and the spreading of “revenge tales” in movement spaces. Get a mediator, get your feelings out in private, and let’s get back to working together, because fragmented movements don’t bring forth change in the rate in which we need.
Calling everything “HARMFUL” or “PROBLEMATIC”. Please stop labeling everything “Harmful” and/or “Problematic” when you really just got your feelings hurt and/or refuse to look at things outside of your own experiences. There are behaviors that are clear cut dangerous: rape, stalking, bullying, verbal abuse, but we’ve blurred the line of dangerous to people’s thoughts and not their actions. It’s not that thought’s can’t lead to harmful or dangerous actions, but we assume that people who say things that we disagree with are set out to destroy us and we make them out to be problematic, when really you all just have different experiences and can’t agree. STOP THAT. Stop vilifying people you disagree with.
Spending Energy On Things and People You Don’t Agree With. In 2017 The entire nation was dubbing Atlanta the city too busy to hate, and as I sat in the middle of the city all I can see were shots fired at everyone for every little thing. I had to duck my head down, not because I was afraid to get hit, but because I was so ashamed. In a time where black intellect and access to education has surpassed that of any of our ancestors, we choose to argue like fools with one another and we even take the time out to try to assassinate people’s characters. These altercations usually sprout from relationships gone bad, reckless social media commenting, and/or actually cases of mistreatment from organizations and/or people. Instead of spending energy trying to tear something or someone down, in 2018 we expect to you to build something better, genuinely help, or STFU.
Electing people seeking office who are not practitioners of new and more responsive economies. There should not be another politician elected because of any non-action defining trait: black, white, woman, man, handsome, etc. All of our future leaders must have experience creating new and more responsive economies that solve issues of poverty, homelessness, and education. We don’t need anymore pretty faces and promises. We need practitioners who can fashion the non-responsive city assets to those that aid and impact more people.
Name calling. I know, I know. We were suppose to leave this in Elementary school. Since we agree on that, it’s safe to say that anyone calling people out of their names is childish. This goes for historical racial epithet, classic hip-hop terms that degrade women, and the new wave of terms that degrade men. Need example? Okay: Nigga, Hoes, Thots, Bitches, Fuck Boys, Fuck Girls, Etc.
Not being apart of a defined community that holds its members accountable. Our accountability methods must tighten up. We have seen an unprecedented amount of people being called out for inappropriate sexual behavior. This behavior runs across the gender spectrum, but men are usually the figurehead of the conversation. Nonetheless, brothers hold your brothers accountable for their actions, and sisters do the same for your sisters. Hopefully organizations that are integrated can create a process to hold each member accountable for their actions through a process that includes restorative justice.
The Lack of Process In Dealing with our people. We live in an age that cries for restorative justice, but we fail to show a model within our own culture and community, which leaves me to believe that we may be only looking for a handout from those who oppress us, instead of demanding that which we provide for ourselves. We demand restorative justice in courts, but don’t apply it in the only court we own… the court of public opinion. When we learn how to be corrective and gentle with our people perhaps the harmony needed to overcome our collective struggles will shine through. I’m hopeful that we will create this process soon, and I hope to be a part of it.
Conversations about rape culture that don’t include the experience of young black boys and men as victims to both men and women. This is probably one of the realest conversation that needs to be happening. 2017 saw countless headlines of men being accused, and apologizing for their sexual behavior. The entire conversation about rape culture is centered around men as perpetrators, which doesn’t lead to encouraging male victims to speak out. This is not, by any means the fault of women. Men and boys should be bold enough to discuss their experience, and my prayer is that they are received with just as much concern as anyone. We cannot solve rape culture if the stories of our young black boys are not accounted for, so please encourage young men to speak up so that they may too be advocates to end rape culture, and not perpetuate it.
Did I miss anything? Comment below if there are other “Lame” things to add to our “Woke” list!
P.S. My use of the words: lame, and crazy are not to insinuate ableism. Please forgive me if my uses offend. It is not my intent.
R.I.P. - Bernie Mac. Thank You.
If you haven't seen Bernie Mac's famous stand-up routine I'll paint the bold beginning. A large black man struts past Martin Lawerence, wearing a uniquely 90's White and Cultured collar shirt tucked into denim jeans. With unwavering confidence and message wrapped in vigor that he knew the people need. He smoothly snatched the mic off of the mic-stand and proclaimed... "I ain't scared of you mutha****s!" And whether it be from stun, offense, or the holy ghost the entire crowd became joyous from Bernie Mac's asserting that there is no fear in this room, and especially not from him. He then started telling the audience how he loved sex, then went into comedic episodes of his frivolous sexual encounters. Because of laughter, we missed his brief signal of maturity and omission that he no longer participated in such behavior despite being fully free and equipped to do so. Sign's of a real man, and the mastery of a comedian. He told a story about how if sex was in a can he'd blow off his friends to simply be chilling with a bottle at night. He gave instructions on how to get your lover off of the phone during intimate times, and ended talking about the Violence in Chicago, and how we should not allow our lives to be imprisoned or stopped by not calling out those who have wronged us in our pursuit to a better our community. (Video Below)
I didn't know that I needed this message from Bernie Mac. I didn't know that I needed to laugh before I said it. To release the anxiety and fear. I didn't know that someone said it before me, and paved the way for me to talk about sex, violence, voices as a black man. Now that there is no fear... allow me to say this.
"I Ain't Scared of You Mutherf*****s"
There is a cycle of sexual assault that I want to be completely free from. I'm a southern man, Atlanta raised, and the theme of my city is Chocolate. Chocolate, an aphrodisiac. Atlanta: Home of the booty shakers, strip club capital, and former home of the freaknic. The infamous "A" perhaps leads to a set of definitions to the city. A, over sexualized city. A, hub for sex trafficking. A city long overdue to check it's sexual implications and exploitations. Yet, and still, it is a beckon for many other reasons so people from around the world come.
I was raised here around over-sexualized beings. Fridays were freaky and hide-and-go-get was a game. In 5th grade my friends and I auditioned for the school talent show as singers. We song, "Somebodies Sleeping in My Bed" by Dru Hill, only to be placed in a larger group to sing, "I believe I can fly" by R. Kelly. Forgive me. I have not known what I do. Perhaps, my teachers did not either.
In my life-time, I have committed acts of sexual assault without even knowing what defined the act. Through my childhood and college years, I recall touching same aged peers without permission sporadically. These are not acts that I commit as a man learning how to be a better citizen to my community and to women.
I'm not scared of my own convictions, my eternalized horror stories down to even sharing my zenith joys. I am both a victim and a fan of sex and my voice matters. My experience matters, and I am an ally to the solutions to ending sexual violence despite any part of my past simply because I choose to be. My experience as an young boy priding himself on his relations with an older neighbor at age 4 matters because there are still young boys who believe the advances from older women are all warranted. My experience and dedication to youth drives me to better myself to insure a better now, and tomorrow that makes their yesterday's not seem so bad and misguided.
As a male I must I admit, it is scary. To only look up and see tales of you and those who look like you be labeled as perpetrators. I can only imagine the horror of being a woman. Perhaps, a piece of guilt and frustration resides in us all, and that makes what is in our closet's that much more frightening. Again, let's not be afraid of these muthaf****s. Let's be brave and address them. Let's allow everyone's voice to be heard, and create real dialogue around our experiences that lead actions that end rape culture.
Full disclaimer, I'm not afraid of talking about sex, violence, and voices nor sharing my past experiences as a perpetrator, victim, and advocate of ending sexual violence. However, I do not define, nor will I allow anyone to define me as anything other than an advocate. I'm striving for excellence in this advocacy and the things that I've learned I'm applying to better my ability to end a cycle that is not worth repeating and to protect the men, women, and children in my community.
Bernie Mac ended his routine talking about how a man was imprisoned for not talking about the transgressions of his sibling, and how it effected the entire community. I've been there, and while I choose to privately talk with friends about behaviors that don't edify our purpose of creating a safe and prosperous community, we must address them as seriously as any root issue with major implications on how our community functions for all, especially our women and our youth.
I'll be the first to say that Keisha Lance-Bottoms was my last choice for Mayor. She was rated last as a progressive council member by Atlanta Progressive News and like Killer-Mike announced during the Press-Conference with T.I. at City Hall, my 1st choice was for the most radical, Senator Vincent Fort. Low and behold it's Dec 5th and I'm voting for Keisha Lance-Bottoms for many gambit reasons and I'm glad that I did, because she helps us embrace our culture.
To keep it 100, Keisha has shown a low degree of championing issues that effect Atlanta's most vulnerable and only probably up until Muwali Davis worked on her progressive 100 day platform, there was no clear commitment to anything that would earn my vote. She has not reached or improved the lives of people like those who lived around Collier Heights and Allen Temple, but when She became the 60th Mayor of The City of Atlanta... those who grew up in Collier Heights and Allen Temple rejoiced.
When the national narrative was, "Is Atlanta going to give up it's leadership" and "Will the Democrat Ran Atlanta turn it's city over to Mary Norwood, someone who wouldn't denounce 45?" It was December 5th when a girl name Keisha brought the whole hood out for a, "Oh Hell Nawllll. This here city is ours!!". Celebrities came out from all over the nation to endorse her. It was a moment and time where the importance of not loosing our culture, our heritage, and what we fought so long to obtain and well.... The whole hood showed up. Migos was there flexing on the gram. Mr. Hotspot Ran to the Polls to vote for ya' girl. Even my man TYRESE was "Literally" front and center (without his daughter) behind a girl from Collier Heights named Keisha.
KEISHA YA'LL! Try to silence your mind for just one moment and flip through the urban dictionary in your mind and look up the name Keisha. Now, despite stereotypes and mischaracterizations of the name, it is a name that belongs to our culture, and we love it because it has brought us so much joy. Keisha is my sister's name, and my sister and I dance and have a great time at all the family reunions. Keisha went to Doug and was smart like many of the sisters around or in the hood were I'm from. No matter how negative the connotations; and with a highlight to Keisha's ability to overcome, she is ours. Here name, her political record on progressive issues, where she grew up, her success, her complacency, and her rise... is ours and her victory got the whole nation crunk AF like only a girl name Keisha can.
Keisha Lance-Bottom, as a representative of the "From Atlanta and Know the Struggle Party", we give you permission to be as black as you want and possibly can and WE GOT YOUR BACK. Do not use your ability to bring the stars we wait all night to see, out to divvy land to them. Bring them out for concerts to raise money for anti-displacement and land-trusts. Roll your neck at Amazon like "You don't need it" if it does not come with a multi-billion dollar community benefits agreement that addresses youth unemployment and opportunities for low-income "PEOPLE" in the communities that were left behind. Blow Keisha in the face of income inequality, while creating a pipeline for those incarcerated in The War on Drugs for ownership in Georgia's coming legalization of Marijuana. Be an advocate for the legalization of Marijuana! Dee-Bo contracts for minorities at Mercedes-Benz Stadium and the Airport, and "Sweat" land so that low-income and minority people can own homes in the communities they stay in, before more massive land grabs.
Mayor Elect Keisha... like December the 5th, we had your back. We need you to be everything that Keisha means to us. Also note that now, Keisha means we shall over-come while embracing who and what we are. Gratefully this time also showed us that we need to do better as representatives of people that look like us, who are marginalized, and to empower and not dispose of them. Keisha you are now our testimony and our champion. Fight for us unapologetically, like a woman from Collier Heights name Keisha would.